For single ladies and guys, which includes more than half of the Nigerian population, Valentine’s Day can feel like the world’s loneliest holiday. No matter how much you love your friends, career and life, it’s easy to feel wistful when surrounded by seemingly happy couples, smiley faces, and red hearts. But it might not be singles who have the hardest time on the holiday, for sex addicts, Feb. 14 can be especially challenging.
Everything is heightened to the single folks and they’re going to be much more desperate, he explains, some may even spend the day hoping and seriously praying for potential partners – these actions just highlights the emptiness they already have inside.
Sex addicts often feel very lonely, Coupled with shame, another taxing emotion, the pressures and expectations to have a perfect relationship could trigger them to act out on Valentine’s day!
The sincere truth is that sex addiction is very real. We’re talking about a brain disease that truly manifests! Typically, patients in this category have a history of significant trauma or emotional abuse.
Scientists are currently looking at genetic research to see if specific genes or predispositions could cause the disorder. Not everyone agrees that sex addiction is a real problem especially here in Nigeria were we feel is spiritual or sometimes we just often claiming it’s just an excuse to cheat.As a matter of fact the church and moslem leaders don’t even recognize it as a real disease which is making validation more difficult.
As a patient it is easy to think of yourself as a sex addict and to use that as an excuse in a relationship.
However, doctors world over are sticking to their belief that it’s a brain disease, like depression, pointing to studies indicating a sex-addicted brain responds to intimacy in the same way a drug addict responds to cocaine.
The disorder is debilitating. patients struggle with daily routines like going to work and picking the kids up from school. when their spouses leave them, They lose jobs because they’re watching porn. Patients even get arrested in prostitution raids!
It might seem surprising that sex addicts are able to maintain relationships long enough to get married, have kids or celebrate Valentine’s Day, but as our experts explain, their patients are looking for intimacy and connection.
“Ultimately they want love, and a lot of times that’s what they’re going for, but they don’t achieve that with their behaviors.”
While it’s difficult to believe, many people are surprised to find out their significant other has a problem as addicts often are skilled at hiding their “extracurricular” activities.
Most partners think that when they marry this person, that they’re not marrying someone like that, ..lol… that’s a joke right?.
Despite the distrust and compulsion, there’s hope for relationships damaged by sex addiction- We believe there’s a lot of recovery
5 FAST FACTS ABOUT CHEATING AND ADDICTION:
- About 8 to 9 percent of the Nigerian population is considered a sex addict
- Not all addicts cheat though — some compulsively watch porn or visit exotic strip clubs
- Behavior tends to escalate and intensify over time
- Young addicts are in the recreational phase of their disorder and typically don’t seek treatment until later in life
- More people (non addicts included) cheat on Valentine’s Day and Christmas Day